you're "falling in love" or infatuated
Infatuation is an exciting
and wonderful "first step" into love.
by Gloria Liven
Infatuation is an
intense feeling of passion, an intense longing, or feeling of love that
is often not well-reasoned and is present in new relationships. It is
the feeling one has when they are starting to fall in love with another
person; It is not necessarily a shallow or bad thing, as it can be an
important step to true love. In fact, you might call infatuation "blossoming
love" that later grows into "true
Infatuation can also be called a crush or puppy love, and is most commonly
seen in relationships that are new, or in people who have a crush on someone
but are not in a relationship with them. In this case it may be a bad
thing, if an infatuated person is too blind to see the other is wrong
for them, or is too ready to commit before taking time to realize if it's
Some of the signs
of infatuation are:
- Thinking constantly
about the other person
- Needing to see
the other person, even if you must sneak away
- Constantly checking
for calls/messages from the other person
- Feeling a rush,
excitement, butterflies when the other person is around
- High sexual energy
around the other person; feeling very sexually attracted to them
- Heart pounding,
- Feeling "fireworks"
and a rush when they kiss or touch you
- Not caring what
your family/friends say about the other person if it is negative
- Feeling like the
person might be "the one" or your soul mate even though you
haven't known each other long
- Seeing only the
good qualities of the other person
- Constantly wondering
what the other person is thinking, if they like you; analyzing everything
- Being unsure if
the other person feels the same as you
- Eating less, laying
awake at night thinking of them
- The couple has
not been together for a long time (less than a year)
- The couple may
not know each other intimately (their hope, future plans, if they want
kids, their religious and political views, etc.)
Infatuation is different
from love in that it is not a mature relationship; there is typically
none of the long-term commitment seen in love. It is also characterized
by intense feelings of desire, passion, and excitement.
Infatuation is not necessarily a bad thing. Given time, it can turn into
love. It can be dangerous, however, because a couple may move toward sexual
intimacy too soon; the person may date someone they are infatuated with,
even if they are not a good match; or a person may get hurt when they
realize the other person is not perfect.
Infatuation can be
a very good thing by bringing couples together and allowing their relationship
to grow into love.
Some things an infatuated person might say:
also want to see the article on Signs of Love,
or the article Crush or Love? comparing infatuation
with the later stages of love.
- "They are
the most amazing, beautiful/handsome person I've ever met"
- " I can't
stop thinking about him/her!"
- "I love him/her"
- "I think about
them all the time and not being with them is making me crazy"
- "If only he/she
knew how I felt, they'd give me a chance with them"
- "My life would
be perfect if I had him/her"
- "I have to
- "I wish they
knew how much I loved them"
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